Our boys' school is a huge stress on us.
Back story: their dad pushed to pull them from public school and get them into a charter school. Since wife and I are his bitches, we had to go along with it. The youngest is doing well, despite his really, really bad days (A/B student). The oldest isn't.
Oldest is barely getting by 4th grade. As in, I'm almost certain his teacher is fixing his grades to give him a 70 at the end of quarters. Their dad is all about video games, and does something with computers. When we get the boys after they have been with him for 5 days, it shows. It's a struggle to get them to focus on school work. iPads come before school. The fact that an 8 and 10yr old have iPads annoys the shit out of me to begin with, especially since the oldest lost his a year ago while under our care...so guess who had to replace it...And as the step-dad, all I can do is sit back, as I don't have the authority to do anything. It's sort of at the point where I'm not sure wife and I should have our own given the dramatic differences in parenting. Often times...like this morning...I just want to throw my hands up and say "done, not going to worry about it," but that's not the correct way to go about it. And it pisses me off.
We are in the last quarter and I'm pushing for the oldest to be held back. I don't think he's emotionally ready to advance, nor does he have the correct study habits and maturity to advance. He wants to leave this school and go back to public school, because it was easier; because they didn't have homework, because they were allowed electronic devices in the classroom, because electronic devices were part of the curriculum. The point has been made that he has too much homework and that the school works them too hard. My issue with that is that they don't have too much homework, he just doesn't do it. Or he'll do half of it, then tell his dad he's done. When it gets graded, it's an F. The other household doesn't look over school work. When they come to our place, we'll literally spend 3hrs a night doing 10 math problems that were supposed to have been done at his dads, because focus is elsewhere ("Where's my iPad?"). I love the fact that the school mimics a little high school, or even a college.
When he focuses on his work, and applies himself, it's easy to see he's got the brains...ace-ing a test is no problem. He just doesn't want to, nor does he think he needs to.
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