Caleb,
I mean this in the nicest possible way: Get over it.
I drove a 99 Mercury Sable Wagon for a number of years and, honestly, it was kinda fun. Despite the (cracked) leather and automatic climate control, the thing was simply a mule - it was freeing not to care about image projected by the vehicle I was driving. As long as it started up, was reasonably reliable and hauled our stuff around, it kept its place in the driveway.
You hop behind the wheel of this for a few years and you begin to get your ego reinforcement elsewhere:
http://images.gtcarlot.com/pictures/53733291.jpg
If an Xterra makes sense for your needs, get it.